27) Parents Like Common Sense And Standards, So Get Both.
Parents worldwide like it when their kids show that they have got some good common sense and some kind of standards of their own. Proof that you, as a kid, have developed them both, shows up in your behavior and in your thought process daily. Your parents take notice when you speak out loud and when you make your decisions as you do things daily. How you reason, think and come to your conclusions also shows how much common sense you, as an individual, actually have. A common sense that can only be developed by basically paying attention to your parents and the world around you. Which, when you have it is something for you to brag about.
It is one of the main things that your parents look for, in you, that lets them know that they can trust your thinking, to sort of help them to keep you out of trouble while still growing. They, as parents, learn to trust your grasp of common sense and appreciate your standards the more you, as a kid mentally grows. As a kid, your growing and developing common sense and standards, means that you are learning to look at situations and realize in them that there is a better way to do things, and also a better way to get things done. You are realizing that you do have choices in life's situations and those better choices, in your life, reflects your standards and common sense. When that happens for a child it is truly a wonderful thing. An example of a kid applying standards and common sense would be, for instance, if they, as a kid, decide to dress warmer when they go outside. If they were functioning without having developed good standards and common sense, they might have gone from inside where it was warm, to the outside where it was cold, with only just a thin shirt on. And then they would get a chill, get sick and come down with a cold. They might end up with a runny nose or worse. These choices and behaviors shows that they, as kids, obviously haven't developed the common sense and standards to be sensible and wear a jacket to keep warm before going outside. Preventing themselves from catching cold and getting sick, is why their parents basically have to make them put a jacket on before going outside. They, of course, as kids, roll their eyes back in their head because they haven't developed the common sense or the standards to know better themselves. They just can't see it.
Or, as an example, kids may share and drink off the same soda with friends. This is because they haven't developed the common sense or the standards, to get the point of avoiding behavior that passes germs and colds. So they end up catching and helping to spreading their friends' germs and colds. Of course, to prevent this from happening, when parents see this about to happen, they step in and stop them from sharing and, of course, the youngster again just roll their eyes up in their heads. This, again, because they, as a kid, just don't get the point of why they should stop doing that. Which is further proof that they still haven't developed the good common sense and standards to fully protect themselves. Or they may choose to allow themselves to mess around with someone from their block, school, or place of worship. And when the relationship falls apart, like they generally do, they still have to see that person around where they live, their school or at their place of worship. They become embarrassed and humiliated by the gossip and the shame of being seen as their “ex''”, or as has-been leftovers. This, of course, could have been avoided by using good common sense and standards that they have yet to develop. Or, they may go out and do what they want to do, without protection, where they catch something awful, all because they haven't developed the proper common sense and standards to know the better way to do things. This is again further proof that they haven't got good sense or knowledge to be protected by. Or they might be the type to go to visiting their new friends' house after school, without getting any permission or communicating with their parents. Which, of course, by the time they get home, they find out that their parents were worried sick for not knowing where they were, with the police at their home, while the whole neighborhood is left looking for them, while assuming that the worst things possible have happened. All this because the kid hadn't developed the good common sense or standards to call or talk to their parents first to prevent things like this from happening. Which is again more proof of the same thing, where all this drama and nonsense could have been avoided just by having grown enough to have developed a little common sense and standards.
When you have developed the ability to see how using good common sense and standards, on a daily basis, can stop a bunch of bad things from happening to you, you are on your way to developing and being able to fully see that secret knowledge of adults. This also means that you are slowly learning to make choices that help you to dodge many of the pitfalls in life. Good common sense and standards are a big part of the secret knowledge of adults. This is partly why you, as a kid, really need your parents.
Title: A-C-T Like a Kid and T-H-I-N-K Like a Parent
Author: C.S. Whitehurst
Genre: Nonfiction self-help
Just for kicks, have you ever wondered what your parents really want from you in life? Is it you, or do your parents want you to have no real fun? On any given day, do you want to make your parents proud of you and still do what makes you feel really happy within yourself? Of course you do! But the real question has always been, and still is…how? How can we actually get this done?
Well, with A-C-T like a Kid and T-H-I-N-K like a Parent, a.k.a “the child-part consoler”, you will get past common misunderstandings by learning how to truly talk, hear, and listen to your parents, guardians or caregivers instead of feeling like you have to run to friends to find some sense of acceptance, understanding, and real connection.
In this book, chock-full of questions and answers gotten directly from the source, you’ll learn what your parents, guardians or caregivers really expect of you—and maybe you’ll even find out how to explain to them what you really expect from them! Not that this book could ever replace a parent, because it can not. But when it comes to openly communicating certain key ideas, this book comes really close.
This tell-all guide contains lots of enlightening explanations and helpful answers to many common kid questions like:
- What do my parents really want from me?
- Why do my parents do what they do and say what they say?
- What do I really need to know about my parents’ parenting skills?
- How can I keep my parents happy with me?
- How can I help my parents to help me?
- How can I get what I want from my parents every time?
The information in this book will help you and yours to start to see your parents, not as the enemy, but as the caring human beings they really are, and take the first step toward family unity, understanding, growth, success, and happiness! Both you and your parents really deserve this, and with this book, A-C-T like a Kid and T-H-I-N-K like a Parent, you and your parents can actually achieve this.
Katherine Shears is a mom, graduate of Strayer University, and an executive consultant, who is dedicated to bettering the social function and overall visibility of all she encounters. She is a deep thinker with an open mind who stays on the cutting edge of learning, having read over one hundred self-help titles and counting.